who is Mark Hayward?

I believe that
doing what you
love to do
makes you happy

AND THAT’S THE TRUTH

Mark Hayward is a
semi-retired
natural-born
United States citizen
and
proud member of the
LGBTQIA2SMOUSEXYZ+
community
who

while
drunk
high
or
hungover

earned an excellent living

by

bringing new products
to market

and

simplifying
complex subjects
for
adults in a hurry

traveling on airplanes
for
business and pleasure
the equivalent of
four round-trips
to the Moon
along the way

Before getting clean and sober
Mark got over
70,000 hours of
software marketing
and
management consulting
experience

When it comes to
bringing new products
to market
he is an expert

Before getting
clean and sober
Mark’s sole purpose
in life
was to
earn enough money

to pay for the
drugs and alcohol
that fed his addiction

Mark Hayward
is also an expert at
paying for
drugs and alcohol
to feed his addiction

His
first alcohol blackout
was at age 12

He
finally became a
recovering
drug and alcohol
addict
when he was
almost 58 years old

Mark has

403,236 hours of experience
as a
suffering
drug and alcohol
addict

438,300 hours of experience
as a suffering
nicotine addict

508,428 hours of experience
as a suffering
sugar addict

52,596 hours of experience
as a recovering
drug and alcohol addict

4,500 hours of experience
washing dishes
scrubbing toilets
and
mopping floors
as a janitor

right after he
completed his one and only
time through Old Rehab

13,149 hours
living in an addiction
recovery half-way house

43,830 hours
living in a sober
living house

and

has attended over
1,000 12-step meetings
with newbie
recovering addicts

During Mark’s
42-year
addiction run

he spent
$503,000 on
drugs and alcohol

When it comes to
addiction
addiction treatment
addiction recovery
and
wasting money on
drugs and alcohol

Mark knows
a thing or two

Today
Mark is a dedicated
addiction recovery sponsor
and
sponsee

who
lives
a happy
but humble
life

on a monthly
Social Security check
and nothing else

Mark
is free to
live anywhere
he wants to live
in the
United States

except for in the
great
State of Connecticut
(don’t ask
it’s complicated)

Mark lives
a simple life
one-day-at-a-time
like there’s no tomorrow
with

just a few possessions

a couple of books

and no TV

Mark informed me
that

if he wants to
look at shit
he will
go to the bathroom

Mark
calls TV
“the idiot box”

He enjoys
his
Constitutional freedom
to
control his own destiny
speak his mind
and
like what he likes to like

while at last
obeying all laws

except for the
speed limit
and
stop signs

Addiction caused
Mark to go from
living the high-life as
a one-percenter
(1st in 100)

with a substantial income
and
respected family

to
losing everything
and
living under a bridge

carrying with him
all his
remaining worldly possessions

in a
brown paper bag

plunging quickly down
from
1st in 100

to
50th in 100

and then finally
all the way
down to
100th in 100

During the
final six years
at the end of his
decades-long
addiction journey

Mark
managed to
live life without a car

after selling his Mercedes
to buy drugs

When he woke up
under a bridge on a
cold November morning

Mark walked down the street
to the local
Old Rehab

just to get
a warm bed
and some
free food

Mark’s addiction
caused
the State of Texas where he lives
to
jail him 8 times
on
drug and alcohol charges

and

involuntarily detain him in a
psychiatric institution twice
for
homicidal ideation

Mark once
spent a week
in an
ICU
on a ventilator

after
consuming a
wee bit too much
of his favorite
nefarious chemical substance

a substance that just
happens to be legal

well mostly legal
um er well uh ahem
it’s complicated

(You could
actually buy the stuff
on Amazon
at one point

but that
wasn’t the
good stuff

the good stuff that
Mark
used and dealt)

In case you’re
keeping track
Mark experienced
jails
institutions
and
death (almost)

as the old
Narcotics Anonymous
maxim goes

After completing
Old Rehab

Mark’s
psychiatric diagnoses
were

severe substance use disorder

and
severe depression

and
severe anxiety

and
severe PTSD

and
severe bipolar disorder

and
anosognosia

Drugs made Mark crazy

Mental illness
is physically
a pain in the ass

No really!

Severe mental illness
actually hurts physically

Who knew?

Anyhoo
after completing his

Old Rehab
indoctrination

into how to
be a
clean and sober person

Mark was still
a bat-shit crazy person

and

and the same old addict
just as he was
before he got his
Old Rehab indoctrination

That means that
immediately upon completion of
his Old Rehab indoctrination

Mark was
in search of
just one more bump
just like before

But instead of
doing more drugs

Mark learned how to
wash the dishes

Two years
after
completing
Old Rehab

Mark’s psychiatrist
determined that

he was
finally free from

all of his
mental health disorders

and
discontinued
all of
Mark’s
psychiatric zombie medications

After more than
two years
of considering the
6 Secular Suggestions
for
an average
of
only 15 minutes
each and every day

and

consulting with
his first
addiction recovery sponsor
(rest in peace)
at least
one hour a week

Mark was
no longer
bat-shit crazy

and is still
bump-free
and
Big Gulp-free
today

MARK NEVER ONCE RELAPSED
because he got his first
addiction recovery sponsor at
an NA meeting

the day after
he completed his

one and only
time through
Old Rehab

His sponsor
told Mark

“I don’t understand how
the 12 Steps work

All I know is that they work

So, let’s get to work”

The traditional 12 Steps
which became the
6 Secular Suggestions
and
Mark’s first sponsor

helped Mark
figure out

why he
became an addict

The 6 Secular Suggestions
and
Mark’s first sponsor

helped him
figure out

how to
stay clean and sober
and
get a manageable life

Today
Mark has over
7 years of clean time

including nights
and
weekends

Every single day
since
completing
Old Rehab

Mark has spent
just a few minutes

writing
as his
addiction recovery sponsor
suggested

what the
6 Secular Suggestion
mean to him

That’s all
the effort
Mark ever needed
to become a happy person
with a manageable life

Until Mark considered the
6 Secular Suggestions
with his first
addiction recovery sponsor

his conscious mind
was
unaware that
Momma Trauma

is
the root cause of
Mark’s life-long addiction

Considering the
6 Secular Suggestions
somehow

transferred the
Momma Trauma
pain

that was
stuck in
Mark’s
subconscious mind

into his
conscious mind

The 6 Secular Suggestions
enabled Mark

to finally deal with
the
Momma Trauma
pain

which turned out
to be
the root cause of
Mark’s
life-long addiction

Please read the
“momma trauma“
suggestion

for more information on
the root cause of addiction

After Mark’s
first husband
died from AIDS
during the 1990s

following a
near-perfect
17-year marriage

he began drinking
and
drugging
very heavily

in an
attempt to medicate
the pain of
his loss

(Anonymous A
is one of the
1 in 10,000 people

who are immune to
the HIV virus
that causes AIDS
due to an uncommon
genetic mutation)

Momma Trauma
and the
shame and guilt
caused by

the
so many
bad things
Mark did

to
so many
good people

while he
was drunk high
and disorderly

was the root cause
of Mark’s addiction

After he
further suffered
excruciating and
shockingly
severe mental
trauma and pain

at the hands of his
psychopathic
Big Sister
beginning in 2012

that was the straw
that broke the camel’s back
and the
stress was finally
too much

causing Mark
to become
mentally disabled
and
unable to work
a single day
for nearly four full years

Around 50 percent
of the
suffering addicts
in Old Rehab

suffer from both
Momma Trauma-based addiction
and other
mental health disorders

which the Old Rehabs
pretend to fix
in just 28 days
for a healthy profit

(And now back to
speaking to you in
“first person”)

What you
just read above is
part of what I wrote
while considering the
6 Secular Suggestions

It’s not pretty

In fact
it’s pretty ugly

Until you have
written down
something similar
about yourself

you have not
properly considered the
first Secular Suggestion

---

Get a piece
of paper

Right now

Write down
the first Secular Suggestion
on that piece
of paper

Write down
all those words
on that piece
of paper

Learn how you became
powerless over your addiction

Your addiction recovery sponsor
will help you
through this
self-reflection process

It does not
matter
what you write

Just write
something down

Write down
anything you
feel like writing

It’s the writing process itself
that is the magic
part of considering the
6 Secular Suggestions

---

Notice that I am
speaking to you
now in
what is called

First Person:

I am this
I said that
I did the other

and so on

Notice that
I was
speaking to you
above in
what is called

Third Person:

Mark is this
Mark said that
Mark did the other

and so on

It’s a trick called
point of view

It’s a trick
that you
might find useful

while considering the
6 Secular Suggestions

Third person
point of view

removes yourself
from the pain

so you can

look at yourself
objectively

talk about yourself
objectively

and

think about yourself
objectively

without feeling
so much pain

Dealing with
your pain
objectively

that way

is like talking
about someone
who you used
to know
long ago

It’s like talking
about someone
who is not
here any more

It’s like talking
about the old
you

long gone
but not forgotten

So

instead of writing down:

I did this and that
I feel like shit
Today is a good day for me

write down:

He did this and that
He feels like shit
Today is a good day for him

Try it

It’s fun

Sometimes

using the
different
point of view
perspectives

helps me
figure out
my shit

---

Take your time

There is no
hurry in recovery

The first time
I considered the
6 Secular Suggestions

I spent
seven months
working on
Suggestion 1

before my
addiction recovery sponsor
allowed me to
graduate to Suggestion 2

Mark asked
me to
tell you that

if
he can get
clean
sober
and
mentally fit

anyone can

as long as
they want to

Mark asked
me to
tell you that

if he told you
how
happy
he is now

you
wouldn’t believe it

so I’m not
even gonna try

I will say this though

Every single day
Mark
acts all excited
all the time

like a little kid
who is
about to ride on
an airplane
for the first time

Because every day

Mark acts like
he’s on his way

to Disneyland

THE HAPPIEST PLACE ON EARTH®

Kids are
born happy

Then
too many
happy children
are
traumatized

and
grow up to be
addicts

That’s
what happened
to me

Is that what
happened
to you?

The 6 Secular Suggestions
help you figure out
who
you really are

(and what happened
to you
that caused you
to become an addict)

The 6 Secular Suggestions
help you become
the great person
you’ve
never been

AND THAT’S THE TRUTH


ANONYMOUS A IS SO OLD AND GAY
HE CAN’T REMEMBER
WHEN HE LAST HAD A BAD DAY


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